He's Just Not Your Type (And That's a Good Thing)

Considering most people spend a fair portion of their lives searching for a perfect mate, it is hardly surprising that there are so many dating books on the market. Andrea Syrtash's He's Just Not Your Type, however, takes a different approach to dating.

Whereas many books tell unhappy singles that the problem with their dating patterns might be that they're not trying hard enough with the men they're dating, or that they need to work on their personal problems, Syrtash introduces the idea that maybe some women are just dating the wrong type of men for what they need.

Syrtash suggests that women have types and non-types, which is certainly true, but that their reasons for these type choices are almost arbitrary and are definitely holding them back. By dating the same types of men, women are preventing themselves from truly meeting and appreciating men who do not fit their ideal in a superficial way, but can really be the perfect match once you look past your initial fears.

He's Just Not Your Type approaches the issue gradually, first by defining a non-type and the different type of non-types. From men who live too far, are too short or don't have the right kind of job, non-types are described as men who have many of the qualities women might be looking for, but they're buried beneath perceived problems.

Syrtash doesn't just identify the problem, she suggests a solution. She writes of activities and thought processes designed to look outside your usual circle of dating candidates. Her writing is clear and concise and uses enough real life anecdotes to make the possibility of finding a perfect match in unlikely places entirely possible. For someone who's fed up with constant failures with seemingly perfect men, He's Just Not Your Type is an ideal way to look at dating with a fresh perspective.

Caitlin Stewart
		About the author:
		My name is Caitlin and I’m a third year English Specialist at the University of Toronto. I have a preference for nineteenth century literature, but am easily persuaded to try new things. I enjoy reading and writing, and the occasional video and/or board game. I also like old British comedies and most things to do with Kurt Vonnegut or Neil Gaiman. I have several cats and a dog, and am rather fond of iced tea.
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