Filling in relationship holes

Challenges in relationships are always going to exist. This will never change no matter whom you're with. No two people will ever be exactly the same to which there won't be disagreements or conflicts at one point or another. These challenges will only serve you well the sooner you learn to face them in a mature manner.

How you choose to deal with challenges also plays a big part in how healthy your relationship will be. These challenges can be easier, peaceful, and even fun, when you're with someone whom you're able to have a mature relationship with share mutual respect, and can have an open, honest communication with no matter what the subject.

Because life challenges are inevitable, there will always be ups and downs in any relationship no matter how compatible the both of you are. So if you're the type of person who chooses to hang around only when things are looking up, but run the other way when things are down, one thing is for certain: you will never grow to be better at relationships. Therefore, for you, it can feel like something is missing and you might have a hard time feeling completely fulfilled in any relationship.

Though you can run away so you don't have to deal with the challenges, maybe even get into a new relationship, start over and enjoy the honeymoon phase, you will still run into the same brick wall eventually. You can only avoid relationship challenges for so long because sooner or later it will catch up to you.

You see, what you run away from or choose not to deal with or resolve in one relationship will only show up again in the next. Then you wonder: I'm a good person, I'm giving, I'm loving, but why does this keep happening to me?

So you see? It's a vicious cycle that won't end until you learn to own up to your relationship challenges face it with authority so you can grow to be better from it.

Until you take that opportunity to get out of your comfort zone and learn something, then only will you be able to grow to experience a whole new level of joy that a relationship can bring where you don't feel like something is missing or that you're afraid to take on more challenging and exciting steps in a relationship.

In a way, you could look at this like lifting weights at the gym. If you want bigger, stronger muscles, you're not going to achieve it by lifting the same comfortable weights. It is when you challenge yourself to lift more weights, stay on course even when it gets tough, appreciate the discomfort with your end result in mind, then only will you achieve your ultimate shape a shape that makes you happy.

If you quit halfway, you'll never see the fruits of your labor blossom into something worth sinking your teeth into. It's almost like robbing yourself of the good the joy you truly deserve to experience.

Challenges are there to help you stretch beyond your self-made limitations. Otherwise, there's just no other way to get better. You have to step out of your comfort zone in order to grow and expand your horizon. Without facing up to your relationship challenges, though you may be growing in years, you'll have a tough time maturing in relationships no matter how great of a person you are.

By Penny Phang

Penny Phang
		About the author:
		As Expert Ezine Writer, Penny continues to capture the hearts of her readers with exhilarating insight and inspiring wisdom on life and relationships. She is one of Canada's nominated Top 40 Under 40 business leaders recognized for providing marketing communication services with creativity and innovation. Well known for her former role as Playboy Special Editions Producer for Western Canada, Penny’s productions have graced the covers and pages of numerous Playboy Special Editions magazines and calendars. Penny is also co-founder of Imagine 1 Day, a non-profit organization for advancing primary education and relieving poverty in Ethiopia. She also has her own signature jewelry line, Penny CZ Jewelry. For more information on Penny, please visit www.pennyphang.com
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