There are some lessons in life that remain constant, but sometimes we realize them only when it's too late. Don't be ignorant. Here are five things we wish we knew sooner, so you can know them now.

1. No one’s perfect. You know you are not perfect. You also know no one else is. But it seems to go out the window, when it comes to people you love. Love is the great neutralizer of hate, but also the instigator of feelings just as strong. When we love someone, we think they are perfect. They can do no harm. Except when they do hurt us. When the let us down. We take this more personally than with someone we might expect it from. We must remember though, that people make mistakes. Those we love are no exception. A loving relationship can last when you can accept the faults of these people, and when they can accept your own. Knowing you both aren’t perfect will make it last.

2. Ask for help. They say there is no such thing as a stupid question, but you can’t help but feel that sometimes there is a question so stupid, that you can’t bare to ask. Cut your pride. You will only know as much as you are willing to explore. The person who admits they know nothing is the one who shows their capacity for endless knowledge. You will feel vulnerable, but ask for help anyway. If you don’t you might make up things in your head, or exaggerate a situation. The fact is, if you need help and don’t ask for it, it will eventually surface, and it might be too late to get the help that you need at that point. You will only be unsure until you are not. Don’t pretend you don’t need help. Everyone does sometimes. And you’ll be surprised at how good it makes someone feel for you to have asked for their guidance or opinion on something. Those of us who like to offer assistance and hate to take any are depriving other people of the opportunity to be generous and kind; we are also blinding ourselves to the reality of mutual dependence.

3. Fashion comes and goes, but style is forever. What does SS11 mean in 2012? Well, if we survive the apocalypse, it still won’t mean anything. The thing about fashion is, it is a designers impression or translation of a moment in time. Just because polka dots, fedoras, white jeans and purple hair are appearing on every runway, does not mean you will cut it by acquiring all these things. Fashion is meant to be a sort of escapism. No one can expect you to walk in shoes with no heels. Yes they are cool, and yes they are innovative, but fashion is a presentation of what could be. Style is something you hone over time. Fashion is the clothes, style is your impression, your personal taste, and speaks about they person you are. The point of fashion is to indulge briefly in something fun. The point of style is to have one – are you a tom-boy? A girly-girl? Somewhere in-between? Your style should last you your whole life, or, at least longer than a trend dictates. If you need help, find a woman who’s style you admire. Jackie-O is always in. It should always reflect your honest self.

4. People Don’t Change. And you can’t go around thinking you can change them. Change comes in physical appearance - some people get better looking with age; some don’t. Change comes in experience - some people soften-up while others toughen up. A personality trait, say, being loving, honest, or being a jerk, tend not to disappear. When it comes to a mean person, someone belittles you and speaks of you with contempt to others, will probably always be this way. The first time you notice it, keep it in mind. Because the next time it happens, you’ll know when to walk away.

 5. People’s characters are revealed through events; but their whole characters are not determined by these instances alone. Take for example, someone with divorced parents. People say, chances are, they will end up having very bad relationships. Not true. Someone with a father who gambles and deals drugs could very well turn out to be an upstanding citizen, one who helps anyone he can in any way he can. Our lives are not determined by people’s past mistakes. Some people might use it as an excuse, but you always have a choice.  Someone who is hit by a bus might be bitter the rest of their lives, while another person who experiences the same tragic event might come out appreciating their life more than ever. You can always be the person you wish to be. You get a new chance to change everyday.

Hilary Lauren Fox
		About the author:
		Sometimes she's a redhead, sometimes she's a blonde. Some days it's H&M, and on other days, it's Chanel. What ever the mood, she is a woman who is passionate about the arts, fashion and social media. Born in Toronto, Hilary Lauren Fox is an only child to artist parents - mom was an illustrator and pattern maker, dad was a painter.  Rather then studying the arts as her parents hoped for, Hilary opted for a degree in psychology with dreams of working in a clinical setting. But after graduating she realized that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree and that the arts was in her blood, applying her education within the art and fashion world.
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