Goal-setting is the fourth secret to success (and not just in fitness, but in any area of life). It is much more effective to commit to a set of specific short-term and long-term goals than it is to routinely hope for weight loss each year.

Set realistic goals and remember to train within your limits. If you are currently sedentary and haven't exercised in months (or years), don't begin an advanced training program. Start with a conservative beginner program. Your belly wasn't built in a day, and neither will be lost overnight.

Limit your initial workouts to 1 set per muscle group. In week 2, you should be ready to add another set. And if you want to build up to 3 sets, then do so in week 3. Slowly increase the weight and stay within your desired repetition range. At no time should you be too sore to function. And runners should also heed this advice. Too much running will guarantee shin splints in the early going. Avoid running on back to back days for the first two weeks and keep the distance short. Sore muscles are guaranteed when you lift. So keep the volume low.

Now for the two super secrets that will help keep you committed and consistent with your workouts and will finally help you lose fat for good.

First, build your social support team. Social support is the #1 factor for success for women in fitness programs, and is important for men as well. Support can come from your spouse, brother or sister, child, mom or dad, friend, neighbor, co-worker, personal trainer, or lifestyle coach. Don't try to go it alone. As Dr. Eric Serrano says about his weight loss patients, Patients respond better when they report to a person instead of a machine. No one wants to disappoint a real person.

You also need to know that nutrition is the second most important factor for success in fat loss programs. That's why you don't need to train like a world-class athlete when you are starting to lose fat. Most of the fat you'll lose in the early going is because you have chosen to make better nutritional choices. And if you don't make better nutritional choices, even the best exercise program in the world isn't going to help you achieve your fat loss goals.

Nutrition is a lot simpler than you think. Don't over think things. See a nutritionist or listen to what your mother told you as a kid. Food choices should contain a large nutrient-to-calorie ratio. Dr. Phil (yes that Dr. Phil) calls this High-Response Cost, High-Yield Nutrition. And follow this rule: Don't eat foods with added sugar, high-fructose corn syrup, or fruit syrup, says Elizabeth Ward, MS, RD.