If You're Not Into It, Say So

Imagine the following situation: You and your partner are happy and in love. But, every once in a while, he hints that it would be nice to try something different And then comes the suggestion.

He wants something new, something you always viewed as impossible, unpleasant or out of bounds. Should you reject it right away, or should you take the risk and go for it?

Every person has different preferences regarding sex, and some parts of "doing it" are liked more, others less. It's very rare to find a person to that is completely uninhibited and ready to try everything in bed. This feature of character depends on past experiences, upbringings, physique.

For some people, it may be anal sex and for others it could be sadism and masochism, or some may simply not enjoy giving a blow job. The question is how you should act when he insists particularly on the one thing that you have issues with?

Is it ok to tell him that his preference is just not your bag? Will you look like a "prude" or will you come off insecure, or frigid?

Worry not. A new study says that men actually respect women who tell them no. In fact, a woman who has limits is more attractive to a man than a woman who agrees to do everything.

If your boyfriend asks you to do something new, here are the questions you should ask yourself. Are you against it because:

A) You have never done it before.
B) It turns you off.

If the answer is (A) then perhaps the only reason it seems odd is because it's new! Think about the types of things that turn you on in bed, while watching movies, or in conversation with girlfriends. Just because you have never done it doesn't mean you never should. In turn, if the suggestion brings about feelings of disgust or discomfort, it is likely something that you simply will not enjoy.

However, whatever you decision when asked to try something "different", know that a woman with morals is far sexier than a woman without. But if you are game, all the power to you!

Sandra (6) Paque
		About the author:
		I am an avid aerobiciser, thigh masterer, kegel clentcher and core ball balancer. I am just like you: a curious and (mostly) motivated woman who thinks she can (and will!) lose a few before my next family wedding or beach party. I am your sister, your mother, your aunt and your daughter. I will scour the fitness and diet landscape (so you don't have to) and keep you up to date on the latest and greatest bum and thigh disappearing potions. I hope you find my articles insightful and more than anything, motivating! NOW DROP AND GIVE ME TEN!!
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