How To Get Comfortable With Someone New

There are few "firsts" in life that can thrill you better than a romp in the hay with a new lover.

Unlike that real first, your first "first" - the awkward moment at seventeen when you lost your virginity to that lanky, gangly boy from down the street - this "first" has the potential to be quite pleasant.

By now, you're a mature woman who understands her wants and needs, and has finally met a man who can fulfill them.

Unfortunately, even though you're grown up now, it can be just as awkward as the first time you decided to go all the way.

Do you like him enough? Do you trust him? Does he like like you? Are you experienced enough? Will he find you attractive without your clothes on? The first time with anyone, be it your boyfriend of a few weeks or months, or the sexy dude you brought home from the bar, can be a stressful event.

In fact, worrying about your body, his body, and everything in between, can be enough to make a girl hyperventilate!

Put down the paper bag, lady. Here are a few pointers to make sure that the first time is memorable for all the right reasons:

Frankie Says Relax
First and foremost, if you want to have fun your first time, don't over think it. Those crazy thoughts will detract away from how “special” the moment is supposed to be. Whether it's the first date or you've been saving yourself for... whatever... there's bound to be a little tension. Just relax! Trust me – he's interested in you. If he wasn't, he wouldn't be there, right? Lights on, lights off... get comfortable and go for it.

Call The Shots
You can't expect him to know what you like right away. In fact, many women say that the first time with a new partner is often just plain bad. That's because we're afraid to let them know when their touching you wrong, or poking around near the wrong hole. Don't be bashful! Let him know what you like and what you don't. Otherwise, the sex may never improve, and no one wants to have bad sex. Not even mediocre sex. So speak up!

Safety Word: LATER
Unless this is a one-time thing, there's no reason to try and prove that you're an insane sex goddess right off the hop. It's okay to take it slow. Put away the whips and chains, and focus on getting to know each other first.

It's Okay To Be Nervous
... and also to let him know how you feel. If you care enough about him to take this next step in your relationship, then you should also trust him enough to open up. If you're feeling a bit nervous, it's totally acceptable to let him know. Odds are, he's feeling the same way too. By laying it all out there, you create a much stronger bond, that will improve both the sex, and your relationship.

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Hilary Lauren Fox
		About the author:
		Sometimes she's a redhead, sometimes she's a blonde. Some days it's H&M, and on other days, it's Chanel. What ever the mood, she is a woman who is passionate about the arts, fashion and social media. Born in Toronto, Hilary Lauren Fox is an only child to artist parents - mom was an illustrator and pattern maker, dad was a painter.  Rather then studying the arts as her parents hoped for, Hilary opted for a degree in psychology with dreams of working in a clinical setting. But after graduating she realized that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree and that the arts was in her blood, applying her education within the art and fashion world.
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