Nobody likes to fight, and we understand that some of you probably have avoiding conflict down to an art. But in reality, bottling up your feelings and avoiding confrontation does much more harm than good to your relationships, as it causes you to build up resentment and creates serious tension between you and your loved ones. Instead of keeping it all in, let it out in a healthy way with these tips for fighting fair, courtesy of Jezebel

First, the site suggests, bring up the sensitive subject in a setting where you're both comfortable. Out to dinner in a fancy restaurant? Don't bring up the thing that's been bothering you for months - you'll just be setting the stage for a huge scene. Instead, wait until an ordinary time, like a Wednesday night when the two of you are just sitting around watching old movies. If you're going to bring something up with your husband or boyfriend, do it in a setting where the two of you can interact physically - a hug or a stroke of your hair can communicate a lot more than just words.

Additionally, don't go into the talk expecting to wind up in a fight. Instead, imagine how you can communicate your feelings without being accusatory or cruel. Both you and your loved one will walk away from the confrontation as better people if you can express yourselves in a calm way, rather than a screaming match. Remember, conflict can be good for you. Getting things out in the open with your friends, boyfriend or loved ones is a stepping stone to a stronger relationship, where you understand each other more completely and are more comfortable communicating your feelings.